How You Can Help a Suicidal Friend

Listen
The first thing a person in a mental crisis needs is someone who will listen and really hear what he or she is saying.  Every effort should be made to understand the feelings behind the words.

Evaluate the seriousness of the individual’s thoughts and feelings
If the person has made clear self-destructive plans, the problem is apt to be more serious than when his or her thinking is less definite.

Evaluate the intensity or severity of the emotional disturbances
It is possible that the person may be extremely upset but not suicidal.  If a person has been depressed and then becomes agitated and moves about restlessly, it is usually a cause of alarm.

Take every complaint and feeling the person expresses seriously
Do not dismiss or undervalue what the person is saying.  In some instance, the person may express his or her difficulty in a low key, but beneath his or her seeming calm may be profoundly distressed feelings.  All suicidal talk should be taken seriously.

Do not be afraid to ask directly if the individual has entertained thoughts of suicide.
Suicide may be suggested but not openly mentioned in the crisis period.  Experience shows that inquiring directly into such thoughts at an appropriate time rarely does harm.  As a matter of facts, the individual frequently welcomes the query and is glad to have the opportunity to open up and bring it out.

Evaluate the resources available
Does the individual have others you can contact?  If so, contact family and close friends to help.   Contact a Resident Assistant and / or the Residential Housing Director for assistance.

Help the person to increase his perception of alternatives to suicide
Look at the individual’s hopes to accomplish by suicide and generate alternative way of reaching the same goals. Suicidal persons have often prematurely ruled out perfectly viable options or have generated only one or two solutions to a problem before giving up hope.

Act specifically
Do something tangible; that is, give the person something definite to hang onto, such as arranging to see him or her later or subsequently contacting another person.  Nothing is more frustrating to the person than to feel as though nothing has happened as a result of talking.

Ask for assistance or consultation
Call upon whoever is needed.  Contact a Resident Assistant and / or the Residential Housing Director for assistance.  Do not try to handle everything alone.  Convey an attitude of firmness and composure to the person, and call for help or encourage the person to seek help.

Additional preventive techniques

  • Arrange for a receptive individual to stay with the person during the acute crisis.
  • Do not treat the individual with horror on deny his or her thinking.
  • Make the environment as safe and provocation-free as possible.
  • Never challenge the individual in an attempt to shock him out of his or her ideas.
  • Do not try to win arguments about suicide.  They cannot be won.
  • Offer and supply emotional support.
  • Give reassurance that depressed feelings are temporary and will pass.
  • Point out that, while life exists, there is always a chance for help and resolution of the problems, but that death is final.
  • Focus upon survivors by reminding the person about the rights of others.  He or she will leave family members and friends with the emotional aftermath of suicide.
  • Do not leave the person isolated or unobserved for any appreciable time if he or she is acutely distressed.

Suicide Prevention
1-800-273-TALK (8255)
Toll free nationwide 24 hours 7 days/week
http://www.save.org/

Technical Education Center (TEC) Building:212B

Counseling Services: 307-686-0254 ext. 2011

 

kdouglas@sheridan.edu

 

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